People tend to make things bigger than what they really are. I'm not saying you do but the more you dwell on a thought, the more things you start worrying about. For example, if I asked you why this was a hard situation, you would give me a story about the reasons and they probably won't really end. So, instead of going in that direction, you have to make it simple.

You're worried about your friends, don't think about the situation. One thing at a time, without context. You're worried about your friends. Don't think of the why, just think about your friends.